Friday, January 5, 2018

Gratitude

Shemot
Ex. 1:1 - 6:1
Précis: With this parasha, we begin the second book of the Bible, Exodus. In Hebrew, the title for this book is “Shemot” (names) because the first verses begin with a listing of “names” of the Israelites who came down to Egypt with Jacob, to dwell in Goshen in response to Joseph’s and Pharaoh’s offer. 
            A new Pharaoh has arisen who “does not remember Joseph.” He enslaves the Israelites and orders the killing of all male children. A Levite male child is born, is hidden by his parents, and is sent down the river in a reed basket where he is saved by Pharaoh’s daughter. He is subsequently identified as Moses.
            Nothing appears in the text about Moses’ childhood, other than that he is raised in the house of Pharaoh. As an adult, Moses witnesses a taskmaster beating a Hebrew and slays the taskmaster. Next, he witnesses a fight between two Hebrews. When he attempts to intervene, one Hebrew mentions Moses’ killing of the Egyptian. Fearing disclosure, Moses flees to the desert.
            There, Moses becomes a shepherd in the camp of Jethro, a Midianite “priest.” He encounters the burning bush and learns God’s “name.” Moses receives his charge to free the Israelites and is provided with signs to authenticate his mission. Before leaving Jethro, Moses marries Zipporah and they have a child. Moses and his brother Aaron go before Pharaoh and ask that the people be freed to worship God in the desert. They are refused, and the burdens are increased on the slaves, who become angry with Moses for his interference. The parasha ends with God telling Moses, “You now will see what I will do to Pharaoh.”
 Ex. 1:8 “Now there arose a new king over Egypt, who knew not Joseph.” 
             Is it really possible that the king would be unaware of how Joseph saved Egypt? It is more likely that his incredible contribution faded from memory over time after his efforts were no longer needed. Is this so hard to imagine?
            It happens all the time to us, today. In our own lives, there are people who have helped us significantly. Perhaps a teacher, a mentor, or a parent. Yes, we thanked them (indeed we might have expressed our deepest appreciation and gratitude to them at the time) But as time elapsed, perhaps we began to “forget” them, and as more and more time goes by, we may totally have erased their important contributions to us. I would suggest that there is more to real gratitude for what others do for us is than a contemporaneous expression of thanks. The real way to show our appreciation is to remember and express our appreciation long after help is provided.
            It may be a cliché to say that we stand on the shoulders of giants. Perhaps we should remember those “giants” whose support enabled us to achieve modest success when we can. Sometimes it has become too late to say thanks again to someone who has enriched us immeasurably, but is no longer with us. Our tradition places a great emphasis on the need to remember; why not remember someone who helped you along the way and express your thanks once again?

Friday, December 15, 2017

Tears

Mikketz
Gen. 41:1-44:17

Précis: At the end (mikketz) of two years of Joseph’s imprisonment, Pharaoh dreams of cows and ears of corn. The butler who had shared Joseph’s cell now remembers him and calls him from prison. Joseph predicts seven years of plenty, followed by seven years of famine. Pharaoh is so impressed that he appoints Joseph as his chief vizier and Joseph goes about storing grain during the times of plenty.
            Joseph marries Asenath and they have two sons, Ephraim and Manasseh. When the famine comes, Jacob sends his sons to Egypt to purchase food. Joseph has them brought in while he remains in cognito. Joseph accuses the brothers of spying, and sends them home after they leave one brother hostage and promise to return with their youngest brother, Benjamin. Upon their return, the brothers (including Benjamin) meet the still-unrevealed Joseph. Joseph has their bags filled not only with grain but also with the money used to purchase the grain and has a gold cup hidden in Benjamin’s belongings. When they are “caught” by Joseph’s men, they learn that whoever stole the cup would become Joseph’s slave, while the others return to their homeland. On this cliffhanger, the parasha ends.

Gen. 42:23-24 “They did not know that Joseph understood, for there was an interpreter between him and them. He turned away from them and wept.”
            Tears are a leitmotif in this week’s parasha. Joseph, disguised from his brothers, fights back his tears when he first meets them asking for food. He recognizes them at once, and speaks harshly towards them, “acting like a stranger” (Gen. 42:7). The brothers talk among themselves, unaware that Joseph understands their language. When he hears them lament the way they had treated him, he turns away and weeps.
When the brothers return with his full brother Benjamin, Joseph “was overcome with feeling toward his brother and was on the verge of tears; he went into a room and wept there” (Gen. 43:30). Did he weep because he did not want his brothers to recognize him, or because it was unseemly for a man in his position of power to display emption?
            By his tears, I suggest Joseph was lamenting his own troubled past, the depths of the gulf between himself and Benjamin, and the rage he was now overcoming with respect to his other brothers. After his tears, he reemerges and serves a meal, his emotions again under control.
The final denouement of course happens in next week’s reading, when he reveals himself to his brothers and sobs and cries (Gen.45:14-15). Reconciliation takes place with tears of joy. It is certainly possible that Joseph's tears represent his emotional growth. He has learned to overcome rage against his brothers and to form a renewed relationship with them.
Tears can result from rage and anger. Tears can result from mere sadness. And tears can result from the joy of reunion and the promise of better days to come.
This week, we celebrate the joyous holiday of Chanukah. If tears are to be shed, may they be joyous and hopeful.