Moses and the Art of the Critique

Matot

Numbers 30:2 - 33:42

Précis: The parasha begins with a speech to the heads (matot) of the tribes concerning the importance and sacredness of vows. The parasha then returns to the war with the Midianites, including the purification of the warriors and division of the booty. The tribes of Reuben, Gad and half of Manasseh express their desire to dwell east of the Jordon, and are permitted to do so, after promising to enter the Land to help the rest of the People defeat the Canaanites.

Numbers 31:13 – 14 “Moses, Eleazar the Kohen, and all the leaders of the assembly went out to meet them outside the camp. Moses was angry with the commanders of the army, the officers of the thousands and the officers of the hundreds, who came from the legion of battle.”

A war commanded by God against the Midianites has taken place. Moses angrily confronts the war leaders for failing to obey and fulfill the specific commands of God while waging the war, including slaying of all but the virgin girls.

The text tells us that Moses was angered by the leaders’ failure. Why? Moses stresses the importance of leaders in following instructions properly. If they fail to do so, how can they expect the common soldiers to follow their orders? At the same time, Moses exhibits an important leadership trait here, namely preserving the dignity of those he chastises. The Sages make note of the fact that Moses spoke angrily to the war leaders “outside the camp” (by implication, out of earshot of others). When it is necessary to reprimand someone (a co-worker, a congregant, or family member or friend), doing so quietly and out of the hearing of others is much more likely to lead to serious consideration of the critique by the offender.

It is a sad state of affairs when those in positions of authority feel a need to publicly display their power over others. Taking things behind closed doors, where one can explain quietly and clearly anothers’ miscue, shows a more mature and effective way of dealing with the matter.

The best leaders understand that people want to do well and want to do right. Good managers understand that public humiliation never enhances performance.